I love this wild west phase of the Fediverse! Feels like the good ole days of the Internet. Onwards!

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  • Have you never seen social hazing in action? is it possible that I might be on to something going on psychologically besides my autism?

    Okay, I can’t speak to whether social hazing happened or not, but I can tell you that you’re making me extremely uncomfortable.

    I started a dialogue, but at this point you’re now sending multiple messages for each of my replies, and asking a lot from me in terms of attention. I do not wish to continue this conversation, but I wish you all the best.


  • Can you explain to me why it isn’t social hazing?

    Like I said, this was my interpretation based on reading that exchange. It’s difficult to convey tone or intention with text, but I didn’t detect hostility from the devs, but I did sense that they were frustrated that process wasn’t being followed. Perhaps they should not have gotten hung up on that, but it didn’t appear to be malicious.

    Do you know how to read a SQL statement? I just can’t grasp how it isn’t social hazing. I’ve been reading SQL statements for decades, this is obviously a problematic one.

    I do, and your arguments about the joins being problematic seemed solid. From having worked on systems with huge scale, I also agree that Lemmy doesn’t seem to be big enough to be brought to its knees by the volume of posts it’s processing. However, I’m far from an expert, so I don’t want to suggest any certainty about the root causes, especially as I don’t have the energy or inclination to dig as deep into it as I would to form that opinion.

    I don’t know why they weren’t receptive, but perhaps they themselves felt attacked. I know that wasn’t your intention, but misunderstanding happen, especially over text.


  • That’s really cool work! It’s a bit beyond my pay grade, so I can’t really comment too much about it.

    I had a look at the PR you mentioned, and again, while I can’t comment on the contents because I am a little out of my depth, may I voice my opinion on the exchange? This is coming from a place of trying to help, since I really do appreciate all the work you’ve put in and are putting in, and the fediverse can really use your talents, so I hope I don’t offend you.

    From my reading, it didn’t appear that you were being ignored/hazed, and it seemed like the devs would have been open to your improvements. From working and leading big teams, I’ve noticed that communication and managing emotions is often much harder than writing code. In the thread, it appeared that communication had broken down on both sides (and seemed to have been the case in prior interactions too). Since you mentioned your struggles with autism in the thread, I wonder if that played a part in the tone of the devs perhaps being misinterpreted ? This is, of course only my interpretation, and I could be completely wrong.

    Ultimately Lemmy itself is an example of trying to build a community and consensus amongst a broad and diverse group of people, who will often not see eye to eye.

    In any case I would like to say I personally appreciate your hard work and really do hope you’re able to help make Lemmy better. Thank you!