• jarfil@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    It’s the internet dude, toughen up a little.

    What, can’t take getting kicked out of the care bear club, tough guy? Their tiny wussie banhammers too much for you? Go ahead, downvote me, show everyone ALL your power!

    (Hi, this is my non-beehaw alt.)

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      1 year ago

      I don’t get it? I’m happy to chat and be called a retard or whatever. Downvotes also fine. I just like to chat / argue/ debate.

      I don’t care about beehaw specifically. The post here says something like even one negative experience can take a huge amount of effort to undo… Really? Is it all that serious on the internet?

      I’m not trying to bait you or be shitty or anything. Why does it matter so much?

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        1 year ago

        Different people take things different ways, some have been taking shit all their life, some are at a breaking point, some are already broken and trying to pick up the pieces.

        If you haven’t experienced any of that, then congratulations, you’re one of the lucky and/or young and/or sociopathic ones. Go out there and have fun! Break a leg, lose a finger, get mauled, set your hair on fire, get drowned, have people you trusted call you names dozens of times a day for a couple decades, get abused, beaten down… and when you’ve had enough, go on the internet.

        Stuff isn’t “all that serious on the internet”, it gets serious IRL.

        After that, some people go on the internet and don’t feel like taking even the slightest extra bit of shit, so they don’t participate, communities degenerate exponentially, leaving behind only memes and shit flingers, a corpse full of “tough guys” where any serious debate is dead before arrival. Not a problem if you have ads or sell blue checkmarks though!

        To avoid that, Beehaw has a single main rule: be nice. Don’t know how to chat/argue/debate while being nice to each other? Well, there is your chance to learn, the community will be glad to help if you’re serious. Or just hop on and unwind for a while. If you try to stir shit up though, you get shown the door.

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          1 year ago

          Sounds like a fine reason not to federate with beehaw to me. If you need a space to be safe safe, you’re better off not having people like me close to it.

          The world isnt nice. Neither am I :).

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            1 year ago

            It works both ways, really. You don’t want to be close when a nice guy snaps.

            Safe spaces are not just to feel safe from you, they’re also to keep staying nice.